NEVER give up. My husband's daughters were alienated for 7 years. I prayed as I watched him slowly break down over time. He tried to overdose. There's a miraculous ending to this story that I'll also be writing about, but I want you to know there is hope. Find as much peace as you can within this terrible circumstance. Forgive yourself for mistakes, find happiness wherever you can, be strong and healthy. One day, when you least expect it, you may get an unexpected phone call or a knock on your door too...
The knock on the door. I'm holding onto that. Seven years. You watched every one of them. That's not just support. That's a kind of steadiness most people don't have. I'm glad there's a miraculous ending, and I'm glad you're writing it. That story needs to exist. And today, I needed to know that someone got the unexpected knock. Looking forward to reading your article once published!
These stories are heartbreaking. I'm not sure there will ever be an end to them. So much more needs to be done to educate mental health care providers and judges and improve family law systems. It's time consuming and each victimized parent would basically require an investigator, a psychologist, and an attorney for each case. No one has the time or money for that. The perpetrators of alienation are incredibly slick - and sick. Their attorneys are devoid of anything humane and ethical. It's beyond infuriating.
Every night I pray for everyone alienated from their children. Faith is what got me (and James) through. I wish you the very best and hope that you persevere. Although I know it's incredibly difficult, you can continue to mourn and find happiness at the same time.
I look forward to writing James' story. It'll be a long one.
And, thank YOU for your kind words and support as well!
That trifecta is the structural truth of all of this. An investigator, a psychologist, and an attorney, per case, just to get close to what actually happened. Nobody has that. It's part of why documentation becomes survival: you're building what the system was supposed to provide.
The "slick" part I've thought about a lot. There's a version of this that reads as calculated. There's a version that reads as total conviction. I'm not sure which is harder to sit with.
NEVER give up. My husband's daughters were alienated for 7 years. I prayed as I watched him slowly break down over time. He tried to overdose. There's a miraculous ending to this story that I'll also be writing about, but I want you to know there is hope. Find as much peace as you can within this terrible circumstance. Forgive yourself for mistakes, find happiness wherever you can, be strong and healthy. One day, when you least expect it, you may get an unexpected phone call or a knock on your door too...
The knock on the door. I'm holding onto that. Seven years. You watched every one of them. That's not just support. That's a kind of steadiness most people don't have. I'm glad there's a miraculous ending, and I'm glad you're writing it. That story needs to exist. And today, I needed to know that someone got the unexpected knock. Looking forward to reading your article once published!
These stories are heartbreaking. I'm not sure there will ever be an end to them. So much more needs to be done to educate mental health care providers and judges and improve family law systems. It's time consuming and each victimized parent would basically require an investigator, a psychologist, and an attorney for each case. No one has the time or money for that. The perpetrators of alienation are incredibly slick - and sick. Their attorneys are devoid of anything humane and ethical. It's beyond infuriating.
Every night I pray for everyone alienated from their children. Faith is what got me (and James) through. I wish you the very best and hope that you persevere. Although I know it's incredibly difficult, you can continue to mourn and find happiness at the same time.
I look forward to writing James' story. It'll be a long one.
And, thank YOU for your kind words and support as well!
That trifecta is the structural truth of all of this. An investigator, a psychologist, and an attorney, per case, just to get close to what actually happened. Nobody has that. It's part of why documentation becomes survival: you're building what the system was supposed to provide.
The "slick" part I've thought about a lot. There's a version of this that reads as calculated. There's a version that reads as total conviction. I'm not sure which is harder to sit with.
I'll be here when James' story is ready.