It is rare for someone on the outside to see that shift so clearly. Thank you for not looking away when your colleague was going through it.
You nailed the core tragedy: the "Defendant" role is so all-consuming that it suffocates the "Father" role. The legal system demands you become a gladiator exactly when your children need you to be present. That reconstruction phase is the hardest part...realizing you can never go back to the old house, so you have to build a new one.
It is rare for someone on the outside to see that shift so clearly. Thank you for not looking away when your colleague was going through it.
You nailed the core tragedy: the "Defendant" role is so all-consuming that it suffocates the "Father" role. The legal system demands you become a gladiator exactly when your children need you to be present. That reconstruction phase is the hardest part...realizing you can never go back to the old house, so you have to build a new one.